Tired Of Being Used? This New Book Teaches How To Handle Moochers

Author Terri Cornileus has been a victim of mooching, but the experience has allowed her to craft an unbiased handbook designed to help those of us who are tired of being used as well as the users. The Pocketbook of Tips for Moochers, released by PipStones Publishing on Tuesday, Sept. 2, will help readers spot patterns, set boundaries, and reclaim their time without burning bridges.

By definition, a moocher is someone who lives off of others with no intent of giving anything in return. Drawing on her own experience, the introduction of Cornileus’ book paints the picture: a divorced mother of two, a 19-year-old daughter in college and a 13-year-old son living with his father, living in a 3,200-sq-ft ranch-style home with four bedrooms, three bathrooms, and a sun porch, all to host her family. 

She then got the call that a relative was in need and, without having her own input, was put on the spot to offer said relative a place to stay until they landed on their feet. While she didn’t volunteer, she knew she couldn’t say no. Once they moved in, life became a classic sitcom episode. In all the madness that ensued, there was also comedy, much of which is covered in the Pocketbook. 

“Ever since I wrote this book, people I know have commented on it, thinking that I’m saying everyone is a moocher now,” Cornileus said while laughing. “I’m not saying everyone is, but the idea of a ‘moocher’ has been around forever and now we have a word for it.”

While she complained to family members about what was happening with her new living arrangements, Cornileus realized she should write about her experience. This would lead to a two-year process when she eventually created “Pocketbook of Tips for Moochers.” 

“When you’re staying with someone, you don’t have the same liberties as the owner of the house, but people think that they do,” she says. “You need to know how to act. You have to be humble to have no other choice but to live with someone.” 

The book covers everything from what a moocher is and how to recognize the signs and navigate through it. In order to protect the innocent–or guilty, depending on one’s perspective–Cornileus uses fake names to describe those who were a part of the experiences described throughout. However, the lessons provided are real. 

“Think about the homeowners of wherever you’re staying,” said Cornileus. “They have to get up in the morning to go to work, and you’re still in bed. That’s when you get up and talk to them. Ask if there’s anything you can help out with.”

Born in Rockledge, Florida, Cornileus spent time living in New Jersey with her grandparents at the age of 14. This is where she learned about rules, expectations, discipline, and interacting in social settings. She would go on to serve in the U.S. Army for eight years and continued her involvement through organizations such as the American Legion.

A mother of two, Cornileus became a licensed auto appraiser and later a senior claims adjuster for the past 32 years, settling injury claims for insurance companies. She currently resides in Florida. 

“The Pocketbook of Tips for Moochers” is now available on Amazon.